No one can make you happy...

OK... I'm thrown off by the whole "I need someone to make me happy" mindset that some women have. I am so friggin tired of women thinking they have to have someone in their life in order to make them happy. NOOOO you friggin idiot!!! No one can make you happy... Yes you can have bouts of happiness with someone but NO ONE I repeat NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY EXCEPT YOU!!!!

MOM MOMENT... My mom used to tell me all the time that I need to be able to be by myself and do for myself in order to have a successful relationship. She said that you have to make your own happiness in order to be happy, which also makes for a successful relationship. She told me no one is going to make you happy if you can't make you happy! Love that woman for all the wisdom and craziness that she has bestowed upon my life...

Now for those of you who didn't have a Karen, my mom by the way, bestowing wisdom upon you then let me help you out... NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY EXCEPT YOU!!! You have got to be able to make your own way. You have to know you are more than the person you date. You can do anything you set your mind to and don't let anyone especially the person who you are in a relationship with, the person who claims to love you, tell you "you ain't shit". Because guess what you won't be shit if you listen to the bullshit and stay in that kind of relationship. You can't become anything if you choose to stay with someone who isn't about shit! And let me tell you anyone telling you "you ain't shit" or "you won't amount to shit" isn't about shit and knows that you can do better than their raggedy ass!!!

I don't care if you are dating or married to a billionaire if they are telling you "you ain't shit" or "you won't amount to shit" then they know they can't do better. (Take 1/2 and leave if you're married.. LOL) They know that no one with self worth will put up with their raggedy ass attitude so they will continue to put you down to make you stay because they know they can't do better. So know your worth! Find your worth! Don't let anyone ever hold you down! It may be hard but at the end it will be worth it... And I promise you will find your happiness and someone who is worth sharing that happiness with but never settle just because you don't think you can do better. You will do better if you want better and be patient.

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Wanting to be too important

I have had one of the most eye opening experiences since I have been in my position. I had a gentleman call the store and just be irate over absolutely nothing. The situation could've been handled by any associate in the store but he felt that he was so important that he needed a manager to help him with his situation. Even after being helped he was still belligerent. Why do people feel that just because you spend money in an establishment that you automatically run the place? 

I have yet to be rude to a customer and I have yet to do anything blatantly wrong that I should be fired. I make my share of mistakes and I may handle a situation incorrectly but I learn from it and move on. Today I helped this man who thinks that he is more important than anyone else and apparently I didn't cow tow enough for his liking. My job is to help alleviate problems not kiss ass. That's not my style. I stayed calm with this man as he tried to intimidate and use scare tactics and obviously that didn't work for him so he threatened my job. Still I stayed calm and told him he had to do what he had to do. Am I worried about losing my job... Absolutely not I did nothing wrong but it really makes me furious that someone would think they are so above someone that they can treat them like a throw away and think that's ok. I really don't care about someone having millions or having pennies I will always treat everyone equal that spends money in my store. I treat every costumer and associate with respect and in return I know I won't always get the same but to threaten my livelyhood... Unexceptable!!! 

Bill Cosby...

Ok... So I'm sure I'm not the only one who has been seeing this Bill Cosby rape deal and all the women coming forward after many many years of keeping quiet. I'm thinking that he had raped some young ass girl and she has come forward and busted him out and then all these other women came forward to collaborate her story. I then thought how in the hell is this old ass dude strong enough to pin down a young girl and the next thought that crossed my mind is that he must be overusing the Viagra... But alas that is not the case.

These women were raped or sexually assaulted 30+ years ago and I understand that back then a woman screaming rape would probably not have gotten much attention without the collaboration of other women. However, 30 years ago a black man would have been put under the jail for raping or sexually assaulting a white woman. Not dismissing these women's stories or even taking Bill Cosby's side but why in the hell did they wait until 2005 to make allegations of rape or sexual assault and then why did it take Janice Dickinson until this year to come forward? And why did it take her to come forward for everyone to start dropping him from labels?

These people are 8000 years old!!! What in the hell is coming forward now going to accomplish besides dredging up insane memories? Is it all about the money? WTH are they trying to accomplish? If they wanted to ruin his career they should've come forward well before the man made millions and has done a ton for the community. Why didn't all of this come out when he was doing "The Cosby Show" it would've made more of an impact. Now it just looks like they are out to get his money and destroy what little life he has left as well as the little life they have left.

I'm sure there's more to the story and I have only researched it a little, but the fact remains that they waited until this man has become an icon. He is the "Jello Man" for goodness sakes. By the way, I have a lot of inappropriate comments about that... LOL!!! I'm not sure if the allegations are true or not I wasn't there, but it seems at this stage in this man's life you haven't accomplished anything by coming forward with this. I think it may do more harm than good for the women at this point. I guess we will have to just sit back and wait to see how this fiasco unfolds...

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Road Rage

OK so Kari has informed me that I have road rage on numerous occasions. We have been in the Jeep chatting away and some moron will cut me off and in mid sentence I will be cussing my brains out and wishing it was Summer so my cussing wouldn't go to waste... LOL ignorant I know but I don't care!
Now the other day courtesy of the genius who decided not to salt the roads knowing there was a possibility of snow... There was an accident down from my house. I live on a damn hill so these morons directed these fools up the hill. Some dipshit decided to park his fuckin car on the damn hill next to the damn stop sign at the top, so the traffic got backed up. GO FIGURE!!! So now the even bigger dipshits watched me slide through the stop sign going down the hill and decided at that moment to make a U-turn in the street.... *DUMB DOG LOOK* WHY in the fuck would you do a U-turn in front of me after you just watched me slide down the fuckin hill?!! For the love of all that is HOLY use some fuckin common sense!!!
I was sitting at a stoplight and the light for me was green for a good little bit. This damn mini van, woman on the damn phone, rode through her red light like she was 5.0 chasing someone. Then when people were honking and slamming on brakes she looked up like WTF, looked at the light saw it was red and stopped in the middle of the fucking street. WTF are you stopping for now?!!!
Now you can call it what you want but I call it justified! It's not like I got out and beat them with a ball bat or shot them drive-by style... All I did was cuss my brains out (wishing it were nice out), maybe flipped them off and honked a lot... LMAO... SUE ME!!!
Now that she is driving and about to deal with stupid she will understand the manic behavior and I can't wait to remind her about my road rage... LOL

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2 reasons why women stay in abusive relationships

I asked this woman why do women stay in bad relationships when they have a way out and she told me for 2 reasons...
1-- They don't think they can do better &
2-- Sex
SMH... So of course I asked a bunch more questions like I was a reporter and shit!

She told me that she has stayed for both reasons. She said that when you grow up and watch your dad or another male figure treat your mom like shit and or beat on her you just assume that that is the way relationships are supposed to be. She told me that a lot of the women that she hangs with are still in abusive relationships because they feel that if their man isn't hitting on them then they don't love them.
*BLANK STARE* Now y'all already know this sounds like some bullshit to me! I don't give a damn that's some ignorant thinking to me. So I keep on asking.
She told me that when you get beat down and have something drilled in your head your whole life and you don't get to see a healthy relationship then how are you supposed to think? She continued to tell me that the boys are the same... They continue the ignorance when they grow up because "Hey mom is ok with it so then that's the way it's supposed to be". Until they find that woman who isn't ok with it and start fighting back or leave.
I did get that... A product of your environment. I was lucky in that I had a mom who is a fighter. She didn't play that hitting on her bullshit... THANK GOD!!! She taught me that you don't have to put up with any kind of bullshit. You have to be strong enough to stand on your own two feet in order to be in a healthy relationship with someone. My mom was by herself for a lot of years and she was ok with it. As crazy as my mom is I will say that I wouldn't trade her for the world!!!

Now the second part of her reasons why women stay...  SEX!!! Now this one I still am not wrapping my head around. I said "There's not a DICK..." I had to laugh on that one "Or a PIECE OF ASS that would make me stick around in a bad relationship or stay and get my ass kicked!!!" She said I'd be surprised how many women do. SO... I asked the question on the site that I'm on and I'll be DAMNED!!! There were women who said they stayed for the sex. I asked what is it about someones's sex game that would make you stay and I got crickets. That's ok though because they answered the important question.
She told me that it's hard to find a sexual partner that can put it on you so when you do find that person then you will hang on to them for dear life. I'd rather have a mediocre partner than get my ass kicked or treated like shit in my relationship. Why the hell can't you just be friends with benefits? I mean you still get what you want without all the drama!

I will say that she cleared up a lot of things for me. Especially since I keep getting told I'm insensitive when it comes to domestic abuse. It's not that I was trying to be insensitive I was just trying to understand why someone would stay when they have the opportunity to leave. When you are not brought up in the environment it's hard to wrap your head around the why's. And yea some of you will ask "Why does it matter?" Because it's in the news and plastered everywhere... Thats's why!
I think if you are trying to inform the public you need to remember that not all of the public has gone through domestic abuse and in my case I saw it but not for long. I watched women leave as hard as it may have been they left. So... To watch a woman stay when she could get out is hard to understand. Now I do! Thanks to a young lady who was real and honest.
I know I'm late on this but I saw a commercial while watching football with players saying they won't ignore it again. What about the law who ignores it every fuckin day?!! Why aren't they gone after and made to go on commercials saying the same thing? It's happening every day and these women's only protection is a piece of paper... Because a piece of paper has always been stronger than a bullet or a knife! That piece of paper must have super powers that I just haven't seen in my lifetime!
These friggin "media chasers" piss me off!!! They got their several days of fame off of the NFL and then disappeared... SMH... Gotta love it!
More power to the people working hard every day who aren't all over the news trying to make a difference!!!

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