Marriage equality and the ignorance that followed...

I have sat back since Friday and entertained myself with the ignorance on social media and in the news about marriage equality. To be honest I have seen and heard ignorance from both sides and it is rather disturbing, now that I am looking back on it, how fuckin' ignorant people are being over basic human rights.

I find it disturbing that I have seen pics of Jesus kissing a man and the American flag replaced by the rainbow flag in the Iwo Jima statue... WTF kinda shit is that?!! Let's have a little more class than that, people. I get that we are proud and excited about the ruling but don't forget better judgement and respect for something sacred to others. We are not even close to where we should be yet and we need to remember, as long as there are individuals out there still trying to refuse our rights, we have more important things to do than to paste meme's on social media depicting things in history. Let's make our own and keep it moving.

Now for the individuals who have been throwing out bible versus against marriage equality... SMDH seriously?!! Did you actually read the bible and sit down with someone who has studied it inside out upside down and backwards? While you are throwing stones you need to remember that you also live in a glass house. One fool even said I will pray for you. *Blank stare* Pray for me for what?!! For loving someone so deeply it hurts. For wanting to be with this woman for the rest of my life and having society realize that it isn't an abomination to love her that hard? Go fuck yourself... Oh wait that would be an abomination! I don't want anyone who's "God" feels that my love is any less than a heterosexual individuals praying for me. I don't want to even be affiliated with a "God" who would allow individuals to pass judgement and cast out individuals who at the end of the day want the same things as a heterosexual couple. I'll continue to pray to the God that I think is just and fair and who loves all mankind as they are!!!

It's funny when you get down to it all I really want is the same rights under the law as a heterosexual couple. I want Kari to be able to make decisions for me when I am no longer capable. I want her to be able to come into the hospital room without hesitation if something ever happened to me. I want everything that we work for together to be safe from anyone who feels they have more claim on it than myself or her. I watched "If These Walls Could Talk 2" and I don't want that happening to me EVER!!! 

To me "Marriage Equality" is my rights under the law, not in between the covers of someone's hypocritical bible...

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The little things make a difference

I have been thinking a lot about a lot of things. I was thinking about how people feel that they have to be like Martin Luther King Jr. or like Ghandi or Mother Theresa... They think that they have to be a big name and make a lot of noise to make a difference. It's funny cause I always thought the same thing until I chatted with a wise old man I call Geeps. We were talking about segregation and how he couldn't understand how black people could degrade themselves by going to the back door of an establishment to get food. He said he refused to give white people his money if he couldn't go in and sit down and have his meal. He said why in the hell would he give someone his money when they obviously didn't want him in their place. He told me that he would take a loaf of bread and bologna and sit under a tree and eat his lunch. It got me to thinking that this man was never famous. He never gave a great speech. He never wrote a book. This was a man that stood on his principles and in the process made a few others understand that they did not have to sell themselves short for back door scraps from people who didn't respect or really want their business. Did he reach the masses... Nope but he did reach a couple people in the process. 

If you ever sit back and think about it, Rosa Parks wasn't trying to get famous she was just tired. She wasn't trying to prove a point or trying to change the world she was just trying to get home after a hard days work. But it's funny how something so simple made a whole nation stand up and take notice.

I may never reach the masses, I may never give a great speech, I may never write a book and I may never be famous but I can make a difference. I figure if I can reach one person... Make one person change their view or see things in a different light then I have made a difference. You don't have to reach the masses you just have to stay true to your convictions to make a difference.

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Justified punch...

I admin for LLA Singles page on Facebook and I made this post... "I watched a woman knock the crap out of her girlfriend in the bar one night because some other stud walked up to her and said "Hello"...
Have you ever dated someone so jealous that they would act a fool in public even if someone said "excuse me"?" 

I had someone comment that I didn't know the situation and that you never know if the 2 studs were "beefing" and that studs are disrespectful and will hit on your woman right in front of you knowing that you are together. She said that she would've hit her woman and the stud... ETC ETC BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! I have two problems with her statement;

1- When you put your business in the street you just made it everyones business and 

2- There is NEVER EVER EVER a good reason to knock the crap out of someone. If someone comes and starts chatting up your woman and she continues the conversation without letting the other person know she is in a relationship maybe it's time for you to go. What are you hitting for?!! If she's allowing it to happen in your face what is she doing behind your back? Unless that's foreplay for the both of them... What's the damn point?!!

I don't understand when couples lay hands on one another and I definitely don't understand why two women in a relationship put their hands on one another. Possibly a product of their environment but for me women are supposed to be nurturers. I understand that women can be very jealous and insecure so it makes us do crazy things but putting my hands on someone is not my idea of a solution. That is the means to an end! If for some reason I feel I need to punch the shit out of my woman or my woman feels she needs to put her hands on me it's time to go. What in the world am I staying for? And that apologizing shit... You can go suck on one with that shit!!! If you get hit once you can bet your ass it will happen again! And if you have been hit once and only once congratulations to you you are one of the lucky ones. 

That is all for now...

No one can make you happy...

OK... I'm thrown off by the whole "I need someone to make me happy" mindset that some women have. I am so friggin tired of women thinking they have to have someone in their life in order to make them happy. NOOOO you friggin idiot!!! No one can make you happy... Yes you can have bouts of happiness with someone but NO ONE I repeat NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY EXCEPT YOU!!!!

MOM MOMENT... My mom used to tell me all the time that I need to be able to be by myself and do for myself in order to have a successful relationship. She said that you have to make your own happiness in order to be happy, which also makes for a successful relationship. She told me no one is going to make you happy if you can't make you happy! Love that woman for all the wisdom and craziness that she has bestowed upon my life...

Now for those of you who didn't have a Karen, my mom by the way, bestowing wisdom upon you then let me help you out... NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY EXCEPT YOU!!! You have got to be able to make your own way. You have to know you are more than the person you date. You can do anything you set your mind to and don't let anyone especially the person who you are in a relationship with, the person who claims to love you, tell you "you ain't shit". Because guess what you won't be shit if you listen to the bullshit and stay in that kind of relationship. You can't become anything if you choose to stay with someone who isn't about shit! And let me tell you anyone telling you "you ain't shit" or "you won't amount to shit" isn't about shit and knows that you can do better than their raggedy ass!!!

I don't care if you are dating or married to a billionaire if they are telling you "you ain't shit" or "you won't amount to shit" then they know they can't do better. (Take 1/2 and leave if you're married.. LOL) They know that no one with self worth will put up with their raggedy ass attitude so they will continue to put you down to make you stay because they know they can't do better. So know your worth! Find your worth! Don't let anyone ever hold you down! It may be hard but at the end it will be worth it... And I promise you will find your happiness and someone who is worth sharing that happiness with but never settle just because you don't think you can do better. You will do better if you want better and be patient.

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Wanting to be too important

I have had one of the most eye opening experiences since I have been in my position. I had a gentleman call the store and just be irate over absolutely nothing. The situation could've been handled by any associate in the store but he felt that he was so important that he needed a manager to help him with his situation. Even after being helped he was still belligerent. Why do people feel that just because you spend money in an establishment that you automatically run the place? 

I have yet to be rude to a customer and I have yet to do anything blatantly wrong that I should be fired. I make my share of mistakes and I may handle a situation incorrectly but I learn from it and move on. Today I helped this man who thinks that he is more important than anyone else and apparently I didn't cow tow enough for his liking. My job is to help alleviate problems not kiss ass. That's not my style. I stayed calm with this man as he tried to intimidate and use scare tactics and obviously that didn't work for him so he threatened my job. Still I stayed calm and told him he had to do what he had to do. Am I worried about losing my job... Absolutely not I did nothing wrong but it really makes me furious that someone would think they are so above someone that they can treat them like a throw away and think that's ok. I really don't care about someone having millions or having pennies I will always treat everyone equal that spends money in my store. I treat every costumer and associate with respect and in return I know I won't always get the same but to threaten my livelyhood... Unexceptable!!! 

Bill Cosby...

Ok... So I'm sure I'm not the only one who has been seeing this Bill Cosby rape deal and all the women coming forward after many many years of keeping quiet. I'm thinking that he had raped some young ass girl and she has come forward and busted him out and then all these other women came forward to collaborate her story. I then thought how in the hell is this old ass dude strong enough to pin down a young girl and the next thought that crossed my mind is that he must be overusing the Viagra... But alas that is not the case.

These women were raped or sexually assaulted 30+ years ago and I understand that back then a woman screaming rape would probably not have gotten much attention without the collaboration of other women. However, 30 years ago a black man would have been put under the jail for raping or sexually assaulting a white woman. Not dismissing these women's stories or even taking Bill Cosby's side but why in the hell did they wait until 2005 to make allegations of rape or sexual assault and then why did it take Janice Dickinson until this year to come forward? And why did it take her to come forward for everyone to start dropping him from labels?

These people are 8000 years old!!! What in the hell is coming forward now going to accomplish besides dredging up insane memories? Is it all about the money? WTH are they trying to accomplish? If they wanted to ruin his career they should've come forward well before the man made millions and has done a ton for the community. Why didn't all of this come out when he was doing "The Cosby Show" it would've made more of an impact. Now it just looks like they are out to get his money and destroy what little life he has left as well as the little life they have left.

I'm sure there's more to the story and I have only researched it a little, but the fact remains that they waited until this man has become an icon. He is the "Jello Man" for goodness sakes. By the way, I have a lot of inappropriate comments about that... LOL!!! I'm not sure if the allegations are true or not I wasn't there, but it seems at this stage in this man's life you haven't accomplished anything by coming forward with this. I think it may do more harm than good for the women at this point. I guess we will have to just sit back and wait to see how this fiasco unfolds...

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Road Rage

OK so Kari has informed me that I have road rage on numerous occasions. We have been in the Jeep chatting away and some moron will cut me off and in mid sentence I will be cussing my brains out and wishing it was Summer so my cussing wouldn't go to waste... LOL ignorant I know but I don't care!
Now the other day courtesy of the genius who decided not to salt the roads knowing there was a possibility of snow... There was an accident down from my house. I live on a damn hill so these morons directed these fools up the hill. Some dipshit decided to park his fuckin car on the damn hill next to the damn stop sign at the top, so the traffic got backed up. GO FIGURE!!! So now the even bigger dipshits watched me slide through the stop sign going down the hill and decided at that moment to make a U-turn in the street.... *DUMB DOG LOOK* WHY in the fuck would you do a U-turn in front of me after you just watched me slide down the fuckin hill?!! For the love of all that is HOLY use some fuckin common sense!!!
I was sitting at a stoplight and the light for me was green for a good little bit. This damn mini van, woman on the damn phone, rode through her red light like she was 5.0 chasing someone. Then when people were honking and slamming on brakes she looked up like WTF, looked at the light saw it was red and stopped in the middle of the fucking street. WTF are you stopping for now?!!!
Now you can call it what you want but I call it justified! It's not like I got out and beat them with a ball bat or shot them drive-by style... All I did was cuss my brains out (wishing it were nice out), maybe flipped them off and honked a lot... LMAO... SUE ME!!!
Now that she is driving and about to deal with stupid she will understand the manic behavior and I can't wait to remind her about my road rage... LOL

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