I made a status yesterday about Ray Rice and I got some feedback about not knowing what a battered woman goes through... And I absolutely agree, I don't know. However, I do know that the dude is an absolute idiot! I also know that there are a lot of women out there who are getting the shit kicked out of them on a daily basis. I also know that his wife is in the public eye and is saying exactly what I've heard many battered women say time and time again. I also know that I'd take half his damn money and bounce! She has the whole world watching this fiasco unfold and if there was a good time to get the hell out, right now would be the perfect time. Take half his shit and bounce no one in their right mind would blame her because you can not tell me that this woman is not getting her ass beat as I type this crap. Can you imagine how he feels now that he doesn't have a career to fall back on? And like she said, he worked all his life to get into the NFL to get kicked out for pulling a Mike Tyson on her... Do the math on how many beat downs she is going to take.
I have seen comments about how this fiasco has ruined his career and the ruling was too harsh BLAH BLAH... SHUT THE HELL UP WITH THAT SHIT!!! This fool did a Mike Tyson on his woman and then drug her unconscious body partially out of the elevator, then dropped her on the damn ground and basically let her lay there while people gathered around. UMMM... Do you honestly believe that he deserved less? I honestly believe he should've gotten worse. They suspended Daryl Washington for a year for smoking weed and you think that Ray Rice should have only gotten a 2 game suspension for doing a "Mike Tyson" on his woman?!! Come on people!!!
There are people in the real world getting fired for less and I don't see fools standing up defending a gay person, a woman, hell even a white dude when companies need to fill a quota. I don't see anyone yelling "It's not fair". As a matter of fact I don't hear a whisper. So you think this man shouldn't have been severely punished after publicly laying this woman out? It's ok to excuse this behavior because he worked his whole life to get to the NFL... To play a GAME?!! So we teach our kids that as long as you are a star athlete then this behavior is acceptable? Please explain to me what's not fair about this man getting suspended indefinitely?
I just hope that his wife survives. I hope that they do actually work things out and that he gets his act together. I hope all the things that she is saying on her Tweets and all the stuff she says in the interviews is true because I can't even imagine how that man feels after losing his livelihood. God be with that woman and their relationship!
That is all...
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Friday, September 5, 2014
It's my choice...
I don't normally talk about my sexuality because I don't feel there's a need. What I do in my private life should stay private. Besides pretty much everyone knows I am a lesbian it's not like that's something I keep a secret. I love women and right now I love one woman in particular. I have been pretty low key about our relationship because I feel like I want to give us a chance to work without the whole world putting in their two cents about us.
I realized today as I was scrolling through some articles that I have that option. I have the option to yell about my relationship from the rooftops or keep it quiet. I have a job where I don't really have to hide who I am. I'm not shouting it from the rafters or anything and before you fools start talking about "well you look like a damn lesbian", I still get hit on by silly little men because I'm so damn irresistible to both genders... LOL!!! That's what I tell myself anyway. I don't have to be in the closet because my family and friends already know. I'm not worried about being disowned or ostracized. I am very blessed...
Then I got to thinking about the Michael Sam articles and other celebrities that came out, along with teachers and other professionals. I thought about how I actually have options and either way I am still ok in my life. A lot of professionals don't have the freedom or luxury that I am afforded. Having to hide who they are for fear of being fired or harassed for just wanting the same things that the next person wants and that's to be excepted for who they are. It makes me wonder what the people before us fought for... It makes me wonder how we have come this far in society and still have the backwards thinking that we do... Why in this day and age we are still worried about what someone else is doing in their bedroom instead of worrying about more important things like the fate of the next generation.
We are still fearing... What? That someone will hit on you in the club? That someone will be checking you out when you walk down the street? Or maybe you'll think that everyone that compliments you wants to get with you?
I was out one night and I told this girl she had pretty eyes. She freaked out and told me she had a boyfriend... BLAH BLAH BLAH! I looked at her like she had lost her mind and started laughing and told her not to flatter herself. Well maybe I was a little drunk and cussed her out but you get the idea... LOL I was young don't judge me! Anyhow, she shut up talking.
I was at the barbershop the other day and this dude made the comment about a guy hitting on him. He said "I went off on that dude!" and I said "Now you know what a woman goes through on a daily basis." That simple comment shut the whole place up. If a simple comment can shut the whole place up then maybe we need to make simple comments on a regular basis. Maybe a simple comment will make a few people think about what they fear. Because really what is there to fear about someone giving a compliment or even hitting on you? (Well, unless it's a stalker or some other weird rape sorta thing.) It's really a compliment. At least someone thinks you're worth takin the time, effort and possible humiliation to acknowledge your existence. All you have to do is say "Thank you" or "I'm not interested" and keep it moving.
I am very fortunate and blessed to be able to be who I am in my life. I will continue to make my simple comments and I will continue to get my point across. I just hope at some point society will stop fearing what they don't understand and start asking questions to understand what they fear...
That is probably not all...
I realized today as I was scrolling through some articles that I have that option. I have the option to yell about my relationship from the rooftops or keep it quiet. I have a job where I don't really have to hide who I am. I'm not shouting it from the rafters or anything and before you fools start talking about "well you look like a damn lesbian", I still get hit on by silly little men because I'm so damn irresistible to both genders... LOL!!! That's what I tell myself anyway. I don't have to be in the closet because my family and friends already know. I'm not worried about being disowned or ostracized. I am very blessed...
Then I got to thinking about the Michael Sam articles and other celebrities that came out, along with teachers and other professionals. I thought about how I actually have options and either way I am still ok in my life. A lot of professionals don't have the freedom or luxury that I am afforded. Having to hide who they are for fear of being fired or harassed for just wanting the same things that the next person wants and that's to be excepted for who they are. It makes me wonder what the people before us fought for... It makes me wonder how we have come this far in society and still have the backwards thinking that we do... Why in this day and age we are still worried about what someone else is doing in their bedroom instead of worrying about more important things like the fate of the next generation.
We are still fearing... What? That someone will hit on you in the club? That someone will be checking you out when you walk down the street? Or maybe you'll think that everyone that compliments you wants to get with you?
I was out one night and I told this girl she had pretty eyes. She freaked out and told me she had a boyfriend... BLAH BLAH BLAH! I looked at her like she had lost her mind and started laughing and told her not to flatter herself. Well maybe I was a little drunk and cussed her out but you get the idea... LOL I was young don't judge me! Anyhow, she shut up talking.
I was at the barbershop the other day and this dude made the comment about a guy hitting on him. He said "I went off on that dude!" and I said "Now you know what a woman goes through on a daily basis." That simple comment shut the whole place up. If a simple comment can shut the whole place up then maybe we need to make simple comments on a regular basis. Maybe a simple comment will make a few people think about what they fear. Because really what is there to fear about someone giving a compliment or even hitting on you? (Well, unless it's a stalker or some other weird rape sorta thing.) It's really a compliment. At least someone thinks you're worth takin the time, effort and possible humiliation to acknowledge your existence. All you have to do is say "Thank you" or "I'm not interested" and keep it moving.
I am very fortunate and blessed to be able to be who I am in my life. I will continue to make my simple comments and I will continue to get my point across. I just hope at some point society will stop fearing what they don't understand and start asking questions to understand what they fear...
That is probably not all...
Ex is an Ex for a reason...
Ok I have heard "An ex is an ex for a reason" and I agree to a certain extent. I believe you learn lessons from your relationships with your ex but I don't necessarily think that you should have to eliminate your ex from your life because you guys broke up. I was friends first with several of my exs and I am still friends with them. My best friend in the world is an ex. She knows me better than I know myself some days and if it weren't for her, Kari and I would not be going as strong as we are right now. She is my voice of reason most days and then she has days where I wanna drop kick her because she tells me things I really don't want to face.
Now, when I am starting to talk to someone I let them know up front that Stacy is my best friend. Has been for years and always will be. There isn't anything sexual but I love her like family. Hell even my family loves her so she will always be in my life. I have run into problems with women I had been talking to and Stacy is still around and they are not. We are pretty close even though I don't talk to her on a regular basis.
I know women struggle with exs and in most cases I totally get it. Some of theses fools keep their exs around as a safety net and not as a friend. They don't even give their current relationship a chance to work because they are so busy trying to keep their ex on a short leash "just in case". They are telling their ex everything that goes wrong or comparing the new girl with the ex. If the ex calls they are leaving the room or sneaking around talking to the ex behind the current's back. I look at it this way; if I'm doing all of that crazy nonsense then I shouldn't be wasting the current girl's time... I may as well be with my ex. Nobody has time for that stupid shit! Life's too short...
When Kari and I started talking I told her upfront that my best friend was an ex. I also told her the situation. I didn't hide anything from her and I still don't. I have no reason to hide anything from her and if I did or do I should rethink being with her. I think she struggled with it initially but as time went on she finally understood that Stacy is an important part in my life. I don't do that sneaky crap. If I talk to Stacy I'll let her know. Granted we are in an LDR so really I could do all kinds of crazy stuff, I don't feel the need to be sneaky nor do I have a reason. I'm not trying to keep a "fall back" because I want to give us the best opportunity to make the relationship work. If I'm keeping an ex on standby then we are doomed to fail.
So, is an ex an ex for a reason? Of course... You can learn from an ex, you can gain a friend or you can fuck up a new relationship trying to hold onto an ex. It's your choice what role your ex plays in your life but at least be honest with the current.
That is all...
Now, when I am starting to talk to someone I let them know up front that Stacy is my best friend. Has been for years and always will be. There isn't anything sexual but I love her like family. Hell even my family loves her so she will always be in my life. I have run into problems with women I had been talking to and Stacy is still around and they are not. We are pretty close even though I don't talk to her on a regular basis.
I know women struggle with exs and in most cases I totally get it. Some of theses fools keep their exs around as a safety net and not as a friend. They don't even give their current relationship a chance to work because they are so busy trying to keep their ex on a short leash "just in case". They are telling their ex everything that goes wrong or comparing the new girl with the ex. If the ex calls they are leaving the room or sneaking around talking to the ex behind the current's back. I look at it this way; if I'm doing all of that crazy nonsense then I shouldn't be wasting the current girl's time... I may as well be with my ex. Nobody has time for that stupid shit! Life's too short...
When Kari and I started talking I told her upfront that my best friend was an ex. I also told her the situation. I didn't hide anything from her and I still don't. I have no reason to hide anything from her and if I did or do I should rethink being with her. I think she struggled with it initially but as time went on she finally understood that Stacy is an important part in my life. I don't do that sneaky crap. If I talk to Stacy I'll let her know. Granted we are in an LDR so really I could do all kinds of crazy stuff, I don't feel the need to be sneaky nor do I have a reason. I'm not trying to keep a "fall back" because I want to give us the best opportunity to make the relationship work. If I'm keeping an ex on standby then we are doomed to fail.
So, is an ex an ex for a reason? Of course... You can learn from an ex, you can gain a friend or you can fuck up a new relationship trying to hold onto an ex. It's your choice what role your ex plays in your life but at least be honest with the current.
That is all...
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
My man child aka Geeps... Respect your elders
I am very protective of my Geeps. I know I only have so much time left with him and I want to cherish every moment. I don't know how anyone can mistreat their elders. I mean my Geeps drives me to drink some days but he's still my Geeps and I love him more than life itself. I watch how people talk to their elders and it's disturbing that an individual can talk like that to someone who either gave them life and or raised them. How do you out and out cuss out someone who raised you to the best of their ability? It's mind boggling.
I watch people walk right past an older individual who may need help and never look twice or even bother to ask if they need help. They may turn you down but you never know if you don't even ask. I stand in line at the store and watch these punk ass cashiers get an attitude with an elderly customer if they are being "too slow". Fuck, you get paid by the damn hour what's the rush?!! And FUCK those ignorant bitches behind the elderly person because they can easily go to another line. I talk mad shit when I see that crap. LOL I know that shocks some of you...
I know this... If someone EVER talked to my Geeps or acted a fool towards him I would lose my ever lovin mind! I would come so far unhinged it wouldn't even be funny. Show some damn respect to your damn elders. They went through a lot so your raggedy ass can have the freedoms that you now take for granted. Not all of them were in the military or marched next to Martin Luther King Jr. but you better bet your ass that they went through their own realities to make life easier for your parents and possibly you. If you took the time to talk to an elderly person it's better than reality tv.
Geeps and I went runnin around today... Well I run around while he sits in the car and goes for the ride. We went to our final destination today and if you know my Geeps he is never in a hurry... EVER!!! Lol I could tell him we are leaving in an hour and I have to give him at least another hour to get out of the door. So we are meandering around the place and it's a small place and if you know my Geeps he will take up the whole aisle without thinkin about other people being able to get past... Lmao I have to tell him to scoot over. It amuses the hell out of me and for the most part people will wait him out. Why they don't just say "excuse me" is beyond me... Could be I'm behind him daring their ass to say some off the wall shit to him... LMAO!!!
I watch people walk right past an older individual who may need help and never look twice or even bother to ask if they need help. They may turn you down but you never know if you don't even ask. I stand in line at the store and watch these punk ass cashiers get an attitude with an elderly customer if they are being "too slow". Fuck, you get paid by the damn hour what's the rush?!! And FUCK those ignorant bitches behind the elderly person because they can easily go to another line. I talk mad shit when I see that crap. LOL I know that shocks some of you...
I know this... If someone EVER talked to my Geeps or acted a fool towards him I would lose my ever lovin mind! I would come so far unhinged it wouldn't even be funny. Show some damn respect to your damn elders. They went through a lot so your raggedy ass can have the freedoms that you now take for granted. Not all of them were in the military or marched next to Martin Luther King Jr. but you better bet your ass that they went through their own realities to make life easier for your parents and possibly you. If you took the time to talk to an elderly person it's better than reality tv.
Geeps and I went runnin around today... Well I run around while he sits in the car and goes for the ride. We went to our final destination today and if you know my Geeps he is never in a hurry... EVER!!! Lol I could tell him we are leaving in an hour and I have to give him at least another hour to get out of the door. So we are meandering around the place and it's a small place and if you know my Geeps he will take up the whole aisle without thinkin about other people being able to get past... Lmao I have to tell him to scoot over. It amuses the hell out of me and for the most part people will wait him out. Why they don't just say "excuse me" is beyond me... Could be I'm behind him daring their ass to say some off the wall shit to him... LMAO!!!
Anyway, we were at this place called "Just Good Meats", they have some amazing cuts of meat by the way. We were starting to pay for our purchase and this woman behind us was doin the "ho hum" noise behind us. Now I mentioned above my Geeps is NEVER in a hurry and besides that he shouldn't have to be when it's his turn in line. Stupid cow should've beat us there but alas she did not. As she was making her ignorant noises I finally turned around and stared at her for a moment. Normally I would make some kind of crazy comment but I try to curb the attitude problem when I'm with my Geeps cause he makes the comment "You're just like your mother" way too often. Not that that's a bad thing but I don't want to embarrass him... LOL a lot!
It took us a good little bit at the register because I decided to ask a bunch of questions... LOL bet she won't "ho hum" my ass again! Unfortunately for this stupid cow she was parked right next to my passenger side of the car and of course it takes my Geeps forever to get into the Jeep so guess what, she had to wait on us again. As I walked past her I started to acknowledge her and she gave me attitude so I laughed at her. FUCK YOU LADY!!! I don't give a shit if you have to wait an hour while he gets into the Jeep with that raggedy ass attitude!
For those of you who mistreat your elders remember this, you ignorant bitches; you will be that age one day and I hope your ass gets treated just like you treat your elders. I hope when you walk through a door and someone doesn't hold it for you. I hope if you need help with your bags someone just walks straight past your stupid ass. I hope when you are in line at the store some punk ass kid is talking mad shit and rushing you along. Then I hope after you feel the pain that you put another elderly person through that there is someone there who loves you more than their next breath and they help you through the rest of your days. I hope you teach someone that it's not cool to disrespect anyone no matter what their age...
That is all...
It took us a good little bit at the register because I decided to ask a bunch of questions... LOL bet she won't "ho hum" my ass again! Unfortunately for this stupid cow she was parked right next to my passenger side of the car and of course it takes my Geeps forever to get into the Jeep so guess what, she had to wait on us again. As I walked past her I started to acknowledge her and she gave me attitude so I laughed at her. FUCK YOU LADY!!! I don't give a shit if you have to wait an hour while he gets into the Jeep with that raggedy ass attitude!
For those of you who mistreat your elders remember this, you ignorant bitches; you will be that age one day and I hope your ass gets treated just like you treat your elders. I hope when you walk through a door and someone doesn't hold it for you. I hope if you need help with your bags someone just walks straight past your stupid ass. I hope when you are in line at the store some punk ass kid is talking mad shit and rushing you along. Then I hope after you feel the pain that you put another elderly person through that there is someone there who loves you more than their next breath and they help you through the rest of your days. I hope you teach someone that it's not cool to disrespect anyone no matter what their age...
That is all...
M. 
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
A face that resembles theirs...
Yesterday and today I was being amused by a young lady who works with me. She's new and I haven't had a chance to really chat with her. I probably saw her more yesterday. Anyway, I was flying past her to go take care of something on the other side of the store and she caught me and she asked me what did I do and then she asked if I were a manager. I chuckled and said "Yes I'm a manager. I don't really act like one though do I?" She just kinda looked at me and shook her head. Later that night I told her I'd wear something that would look more like a manager.
Today I was chatting with this same young lady and I asked her if I looked more like a manager today and she said "Not really.", I just laughed. Then she starts asking about her schedule and I told her to put a copy on the desk and I'll sign it. She told me after I signed it that she was going to have Ryan, who is another manager, sign it because she really didn't think I was a manager. I started rollin "Are you serious?!! What do you think I just walk around bossing people around and answering questions because I think it's fun?" Ryan had to tell her that I was a manager... That I was his equal. I'm still amused, no need to get upset because I am pretty unorthodox with my management style.
As we were going home she made the comment that Stephen, Ryan and Sal were on this side and I was WAAAYYY on the other side. That's why she didn't think I was a manager. I asked "Do you think you have to be a white male to be a manager at Home Depot?" she said "Well that's all we've ever seen."
That got me to thinking about all the managers that I've ever had at the Home Depot and she's pretty much correct. I know that the Home Depot is trying to make their management more diverse but in the Omaha area I think it's going to be a little hard if the mentality of the associates is you have to be a white male to promote. I may not have been their first choice but I think I was the right choice especially in the store that I am currently in. Kari made the comment that they haven't had "a face to match theirs so they don't know that it's possible to move up". That made sense to me because all the women that were in management positions either washed out or are so damn miserable you wonder how long they will last. I know it's not an easy job and it helps that I love my job but at the end of the day it's a job. I have learned that I have to make the best decisions I can, given I have about 2.5 seconds to respond. I will make horrible decisions and I'll make amazing decisions either way it's still a learning experience. I need the people I manage to see that it's possible to promote without losing 1- who you are and 2- your mind. Every day should be a new adventure!
I want to be the exception not the rule in someone's life... Anything is possible!!!
That is all...
Today I was chatting with this same young lady and I asked her if I looked more like a manager today and she said "Not really.", I just laughed. Then she starts asking about her schedule and I told her to put a copy on the desk and I'll sign it. She told me after I signed it that she was going to have Ryan, who is another manager, sign it because she really didn't think I was a manager. I started rollin "Are you serious?!! What do you think I just walk around bossing people around and answering questions because I think it's fun?" Ryan had to tell her that I was a manager... That I was his equal. I'm still amused, no need to get upset because I am pretty unorthodox with my management style.
As we were going home she made the comment that Stephen, Ryan and Sal were on this side and I was WAAAYYY on the other side. That's why she didn't think I was a manager. I asked "Do you think you have to be a white male to be a manager at Home Depot?" she said "Well that's all we've ever seen."
That got me to thinking about all the managers that I've ever had at the Home Depot and she's pretty much correct. I know that the Home Depot is trying to make their management more diverse but in the Omaha area I think it's going to be a little hard if the mentality of the associates is you have to be a white male to promote. I may not have been their first choice but I think I was the right choice especially in the store that I am currently in. Kari made the comment that they haven't had "a face to match theirs so they don't know that it's possible to move up". That made sense to me because all the women that were in management positions either washed out or are so damn miserable you wonder how long they will last. I know it's not an easy job and it helps that I love my job but at the end of the day it's a job. I have learned that I have to make the best decisions I can, given I have about 2.5 seconds to respond. I will make horrible decisions and I'll make amazing decisions either way it's still a learning experience. I need the people I manage to see that it's possible to promote without losing 1- who you are and 2- your mind. Every day should be a new adventure!
I want to be the exception not the rule in someone's life... Anything is possible!!!
That is all...
Random thoughts...
If I'm cooking and I ask you if you'd like for me to make you some and you say "No" do not expect me to share my damn food. I am not going to go hungry and or cook more food for myself because you decided not to speak up when I asked. I'd rather you say "Yes" and then not eat it than to say no and breathe all over my food until I ask you if you want some. My Geeps got so bad about it that I now hesitate for several minutes and then ask him if he's sure. Then I have to wait a few more moments for him to decide how much he wants. It could be upwards of an hour before I start to cook. LOL
I was sitting at the table eating lunch. I had just went and got McDonalds and my fries were still blazing hot, when I still ate fast food. Y'all know how good McDonalds fries are when the are still blazing hot! This fool, who I knew never washed his damn hands, put his damn hands in my friggin fries. I could've spit fire!!! I don't understand what would possess someone to help themselves to my friggin fries. I about lost my mind... Get real I did lose my mind!!! I came so unglued... I asked him what would possess him to put his fuckin hands in my fries without asking and then I got up and threw my whole lunch away... I was a little pissed! I dropped several more F-Bombs and this ignorant moron asked me why I didn't just give him the food *if looks could kill* I thought he was about to piss himself. If I knew I wouldn't get fired I probably would've jumped on him, that's how mad I was at the time.
I don't do buffets because I don't know what they think that stupid sneeze guard is protecting. I don't understand the point of the sneeze guard. Do they know little kids aren't that tall? And do they know people walk off the street and don't wash their hands? So, my mom decided I needed to go to a buffet because my Geeps likes that nasty ass Golden Coral. I almost hand a meltdown... won't lie. All I could see was these people touching my food with their nasty ass unwashed hands and these little kids sneezing all over my food before I got there. Needless to say I didn't go, I just couldn't.
Kari says food for me is real... Well yea it is! I enjoy eating good food and I enjoy it even more when it's not getting ruined by someone either interrupting my meal or doing discussing things while I eat or me thinking about the discussing things that people could possibly do to it while I'm not looking. That's why I don't think about what they do to my food when I can't see them cooking it. LOL sounds crazy I know but don't care... Out of site out of mind!
That is random...
Friday, August 29, 2014
Just beyond ignorant!!!
I shouldn't even have to tell you why this has got to be the most ignorant shit I've seen in a couple days. This is so damn ignorant that it has taken me a couple days just to wrap my head around this ignorant crap. I mean did this dude even think about that dumb ass shirt before he put that shit on his body. Does this dude even watch the news? I'm not trying to down play this child being killed but this guy obviously missed the memo of what ISIS is about. It's not like they're some little gang banger down the street doin drive-bys in the neighborhood. These mothafuckas are stealing people and torturing them and OH BY THE WAY... BEHEADING THEM!!! I don't know about you but I think I'll take my chances with the rogue ass cops! I bet the people that ISIS has tortured and killed right now would take dealing with the rogue police fools over ISIS any day!
That is all... Maybe...
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